Understand me, my perceptions are different

In this article we will see how perceptions work, and how they affect us when interpreting our reality, thus influencing such important aspects as self-esteem, happiness, and communication.


We live in a world where objective reality is hardly identifiable, because reality is interpreted by the people who perceive it.

Perception begins when people are exposed to various stimuli from outside, which are perceived by the senses, sight, smell, touch, auditory and taste, which give us an interpretation of reality.

Those senses are variable filters. Thus, as studied in Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), people are classified as visual, auditory and kinesthetic, based on the way they perceive their environment better.

This fact already makes the perceptions of one person to another about the stimuli that they collect from their environment, vary. Not only for being a unique and different person from the rest of the inhabitants of planet earth, but also their perceptions will be different depending on the moment in which that person is.


Thus, a person who has just been unemployed and presents himself in a very complicated situation, since his subsistence is in danger, will have a very different perception of reality from one who has just received a promotion in his job. Thus, variables such as mood influence our way of interpreting the world.

The attention is selective, where the subject selects the information that interests him and forgets the rest

We can conclude, after this analysis, that we are not only exposed to external stimuli, but subsequently, these are operated cognitively by each individual to give them meaning, and as a consequence, a more or less conscious interpretation of reality. Or what is the same, more or less accurate to what would correspond to a "true reality", objective reality, or at least, a truth that is really convenient for your well-being.

Next and continuing with this analysis on perceptions, I leave you with a text as a somewhat poetic reflection, which I published recently in my social networks.

There is no reality, there is your truth.

We live in a rainy world. That rain represents the stormy and overwhelming influx of stimuli that follow one after another like drops falling into the void.

There is no reality, we are the people who draw paper and pencil every day the reflection of life. For some that reflection will be artistic, creative, big, wonderful. For others it is nothing more than a struggle, a battle of great falls and uprisings if appropriate.

There are those who accept the rain, collect the most purified water. They move forward and feel day to day as growth. There are those who get depressed and move the storm outside to themselves.

A shower of stimuli. A rain of sensations. A rain of beliefs. Rain of successes and failures. A rain that falls on wet, on the puddles of our past conditioning. And the only thing that is in our hands, is not picking up indoors to let time pass and consume life, if not go out there and dance to the rhythm of the drops that hit the ground. It is the joy of living, the joy of learning to perceive the world in all its splendor, with enthusiasm and without fear. Without fear? Yes, without fear. Without fear even the cold of being soaked. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and get involved in the magic of consciousness, and when you open them again, feel the world in fullness.

Excerpt from the Poem:
Perceptions in a rainy world

Discover more poems here

Subjective reality

Before continuing with this article, let's review our beloved and beloved Wikipedia , the term of subjectivity:

"The subjectivity it is the property of perceptions, arguments and language based on the point of view of sujeto, and therefore influenced by the particular interests and desires of it. Its counterpoint is the objectivity, which bases them on an intersubjective point of view, not prejudiced, verifiable by different subjects.

From the point of view of sociology, subjectivity refers to the field of action and representation of subjects always conditioned to historical, political, cultural, etc. circumstances. ”

There is no objective reality that it must always be interpreted or codified by an individual. There is a reality perceived differently by each person around their conditioning, emotions, hypotheses, beliefs, etc. Hence the poetic statement mentioned in the text about the "Drawing of reality"Well, it is we, the individuals, who form and interpret these realities. That is why there are people who say one thing and bet on some theories, and others for others. They interpret a different reality.

«Our attention is selective and amplifies or filters the information that comes from the outside world according to our own purposes and desires, creating hypotheses of the world that together with the memories that we retain inside guide and manipulate the sensory information to create our particular reality ». Networks - The brain builds reality.

In addition to all this, although it is true that there are social groups that have very similar perceptions of reality, and that is why they organize in that group, to a greater or lesser extent, the interpretation that each subject makes of the realityD differs. Two people can believe in the same, for example, being both Catholic and having the same values. But the simple fact that one has a better or worse mood than the other makes one see life differently. Not only in each subject, but in the same individual continuously changes at every moment. Both his perception of external factors and of himself (internal factors). What for a person today may be very true, tomorrow may not be at all, and that does not imply that they leave their social or cultural group.

Subjective reality is constantly changing, with every second that passes.

In this way, I interpret that although there may be an objective reality or being more concrete, objective truths that are true for everyone, it will be very difficult to achieve them, because when passing through the filters of perceptions, we will only be able to see a “subjective truth”, for some more distorted than for others depending on their levels of consciousness.

Internal factors

These internal factors that will lead us to act in one way or another are personality, motivation and our experiences (learning).

Personality: they are the traits and characteristics of an individual, determinants of their behavior and interpretation of the stimuli. Depending on the personality of a human being, his reactions can be very different, so if he has great self-esteem, when faced with an external stimulus like a joke about him, it will make him laugh, and if his self-esteem is low, he will react with anger.

Motivation: It relates to the ability of the stimulus to start a person, without ever letting us be influenced by our state. If something gives us a lot of interest, we will perceive it differently than if it does not attract our attention.

Learning: The more a person learns, the perception will be more complex and different from those of other people who have less learning. Learning is the great influencer in our level of consciousness, and we influence increasing it, for example, by reading articles like this. To give a somewhat silly and obvious example, the opinion that a psychologist may have about a person with personality disorders may be very different from that of an economist or a computer engineer. While for the first one it is a person who needs help and can provide a solution with an appropriate treatment, for the last two they can find a madman without remedy, thus influencing their levels of empathy when dealing with that person with problems.

From perception to deductions

There are many curious data that predict that the interpretation not only depends on these environmental conditions already mentioned, but also influences the subconscious. Thus there are studies, such as that of the Technological University of Texas (TTU), which predict that people prefer tall and burly political leaders, because the physicist influences our perceptions of survival, seeing those healthier (or at least they seem so) , as the most qualified to survive.

Our perceptions influence our deductions and attitudes

Other studies and research, within the example of physical value, argue that the most handsome are perceived as more successful. These are variables that despite having little meaning, make us elucidate the extent to which our perceptions can lead us to deceit interpretations, as human beings make great use of associations. For more information about these perceptions related to beauty you can watch this video.

In our social life

Let us now raise those levels of consciousness of which we have spoken, analyzing perceptions in different social fields, pointing as we always do in this magazine and in our workshops and courses, towards more optimistic deductions that bring us greater happiness and success.

Possession and love

It is the interpretation we make of our life that will make love a bridge to suffering. An intense love can provoke us desires of possession, we want to keep it always this wonderful. Going through a bad run and that the love we feel for another person is the only thing that makes our day It can end up producing emotional dependence. Without that person we would not know how to live ...

It is the possession and that emotional dependence that end up turning love into a cancer, where we pass from one extreme, the loss of interest that we already possess to that person, to the other, the excessive fear of losing it. Swings of desire, jealousy and general suffering as a result of emotional imbalance. But for a psychologically healthy person, who loves herself and builds her happiness from her own desire to live and enjoy the present, without her self-esteem depending on any external factor, love becomes the greatest plenitude.

More on emotional dependence in:
Emotional dependence: How to overcome the love obsession

Love or sexuality?

The intense sexuality that prevails today our lives, the one that has taken the reins of our societies, is an anesthetic to the deep fear that people have to fall in love with the emotional damage they have had in the past. But the fault is not love, the fault is the misunderstanding made by him the vast majority of people, who face their bad experiences decide to focus on a sexuality little involved in feelings. And before the reader can interpret this a critique of sexuality, I warn that "there are no shots", because I think that sexuality is very good and necessary for our lives. My criticism is directed to those who take refuge in sexuality containing their emotions and feelings towards other people for fear of suffering.

On the other hand, in my view, love does not imply pain, it is the poor conditioning of human beings who transforms that love into intense anguish. It is these perceptions that can turn a healthy relationship into a toxic one.

Criticisms, discussions, conflicts…

Many people tend to judge and criticize the actions of other people, simply because these actions do not correspond to their ways of thinking.

How nice it would be that instead of imprisoning ourselves between the barriers of our mind, we tried to see beyond. That we see how wonderful it is for some to think and act differently than ours, and focus on the good. Beware of the conditioning of the past, as many are already obsolete in our society. Living the present implies a continuous renewal.

Most of the times we discuss we do it for real bullshit. It is that you have not done this well, I do not know how you can think like that, I do not know how you have not thought that, is that I do not understand how you can do this or that ...

Expand your mind, accept that each human being has a different way of thinking and that is wonderful. Use empathy and don't try to make everyone think or think just like you, and at the same time use courage to defend your own ways of thinking by focusing on your positive points. If we were all equal we would die of boredom. Let's celebrate that we are different!

Good or bad influences

Contact with others infects us with their emotions. Nervousness, stress, negativity, all or nothing. They cause us negative emotions that are not necessarily caused by us, but may come from our environment.

Watch your surroundings. To those people you have by your side every day. Without wanting to cause you any harm they may be infecting you with negative attitudes and feelingsVAT But also, with yourself, you must be aware and identify when they may be negatively influencing you and not allowing it.

Effective communication with others

If we want to be good communicators and avoid causing misunderstandings and conflicts, we must take into account perceptions. We will have to take into account that when we communicate we not only have to take into account the meaning that we give to those words, but also the meaning that our public can be giving.

This meaning that a word or expression can have for us may differ from that given by any other person. Watch what you say and how you say it and anticipate any possible objections you may get in favor of a good understanding.

If we believe that the perception of the other person is wrong, as a good communicator your duty would be to make him see his mistake without attacking it, and infect it with positive emotions that relax his mood, while looking for an understanding and beneficial solution for both.

Take control of your emotions and look forward to your present with courage, joy and optimism.

Conclusions and final recommendations

We have seen how perceptions are different from one person to another, and how they influence our deductions and attitudes. In other words, depending on our perceptions, influenced by our conditioning and beliefs, we will deduct these stimuli that will lead us to act and interpret them in one way or another, thus affecting our behavior.

All this is fundamental in the formation of the different personality traits, as well as our attitudes. Rethinking, meditating or reflecting again is the best way to question our perceptions, and thus be able to evaluate to what extent we can consider them as true or beneficial for us. Sometimes it is not easy, because our knowledge of the world can be limited, for which to consult other people or train on paper (read books or articles), they become very useful resources.

At the same time, it is worth mentioning that these changes take time and require perseverance, since it is better to have a fine and constant rain that soaks the earth well, like sirimiri, than a shower that produces floods and problems and barely soaks the earth.

brave jungle

#wearebrave #alwaysbeatyourself

Everything is a matter of perspective in a kind of philosophical jungle where objective reality is hardly detectable. Hence, we require a great ambivalence that allows us to understand different completely opposite points of view. From there, look at the full range of grays in the middle. In those moments you will find the hidden consciousness in them.

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