The best books to learn to seduce do not necessarily have to be books about seduction. Relating effectively and being attractive depends on a wide variety of factors to consider.
To seduce is not just what we say, but what we think and how we feel in a language that communicates and transmits emotions.
- 1 The best books to learn to seduce and why I recommend them
- 1.1 My own works David Jungle books
- 1.2 Books by Luis Tejedor “Egoland”
- 1.3 Robert Green books
- 1.4 Eckhart Tolle books
- 1.5 OSHO books
- 1.6 Betsy Prioleau's book
- 1.7 David DeAngelo books
- 1.8 Zan Perrion's book
- 1.9 Bernardo Stamateas books
- 1.10 Mario Luna? ¿Mystery? Neil Strauss?
- 1.11 Direct your life, by Pau Navarro
- 1.12 Erotic novels
- 1.13 Álvaro Bonilla books
- 1.14 Poetry
Is my opinion well founded?
If you do not know me and you just fell on this website for the magic arts of our beloved Google, I will tell you that I am not new in this matter. The first seduction book I read was only 13 years old, back in 2003. What a time! Times when there were virtually no books on the subject.
Since then I have read many and practiced much of the teachings of all of them. Reflecting on how these books influenced my way of thinking, and more importantly, acting.
In 2012 I started writing and teaching my own courses, always without neglecting my great passion for reading and my incessant hunger for knowledge in social relations.
So, having said that, I will explain to you which books I recommend the most and which are not. And if, in case you ask, I have read them all. I would never talk about whether I recommend a book or not without giving a sincere and informed opinion. It hurts to who it hurts!
How do we know if a book of seduction is good?
For me for a book of seduction to be good it must be based on observation. It must be a book full of examples and advice that inspires us to be better communicators, or if it does not include examples, that at least has a good dose of well-founded theory.
The idea is that these books feed our own intelligence and intuition. May they inspire our own seductive instinct.
The techniques, routines, and tricks of seduction in the long run do not work if the person who applies them does not do so during context and the exact emotional moment. And that kind of intuition takes time to develop, and it is very difficult to do it if it is not practiced naturally. That is, without continuing without rigid patterns.
Thus, study structured methods step by step with routines so that you think as little as possible and do only what the book tells you, In the long run it doesn't work. On the contrary, they end up castrating your spontaneity. A feature that is absolutely vital in this attraction.
These types of methods are useful for one thing: to get excited and motivate you to take action thinking that the path will be easy if you follow that structure. For little else! And for that, we better motivate ourselves directly thinking that we can seduce naturally without having to remember what another told us we had to do. Improving what we offer and contribute as I explain in my guide on how to flirt. Because only a real improvement in our social skills, attitudes and knowledge can lead us to be more seductive.
The best books to learn to seduce and why I recommend them
My own works
David Jungle books
Wake up beauty is a book that sees seduction in a very different way than most books that deal with this theme. His approach is completely natural and teaches us that seducing is something we must experience and feel with total intensity. Letting ourselves be dragged by what we feel here and now in the presence of others. It is not based on the use of tricks and techniques to give a feigned appearance, but on a conscious development of our perceptions, conditioning and social skills.
Its approach is simple: to adapt the attitude of awakening beauty in others while we discover the immense beauty that is in ourselves through creative communication.
It is divided into three blocks that correspond to: Philosophy of life, insight and emotional communication. Within the philosophy of life we find reflections to be more creative and experience our life as an artist. Through the block of insightful observation we get rid of dogmas and learn to use our own intelligence and intuition to seduce effectively and at the same time naturally and felt. And in the last block, based on the model already explained in my article The gift of labia, I present a multitude of resources so that your words never dry out and satisfy emotions that seduce: creative techniques, improve our sense of humor by studying their different styles, learn to praise and talk about ourselves, create intense emotional connections, generate sexual tension, etc.
All this accompanied by 100 conversation examples written in narrative (as if they were excerpts from a novel) where the philosophical attitudes behind seductive behavior develop, while we are inspired to see what we can say in a multitude of different contexts.
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“I have read several books of seduction, self-help and improvement, but this book is simply the revolution. I have not found anything deeper than beauty awakens. It is a new philosophy that breaks with the teachings of seduction experts transporting this art to another new level. Also, in no other book or video on YouTube you find the same teachings, based on the author's philosophy, novels, poetry and others. It changed my life personally.
Anderson's opinion on bravejungle.com
Flirt on WhatsApp
The fourth edition of Ligar by WhatsApp (March 2019) that you will find in ebook and on paper. It has more than 50 creative conversation examples and a multitude of phrases and concepts that will help you improve your lips. It is also accompanied by the We´re Brave philosophy of this blog.
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Books by Luis Tejedor “Egoland”
His seduction books are based on the experience of the author and his team in the field of psychology. Luis Tejedor is a psychologist and sexologist, so his theories are well founded so that they do not attack our self-esteem.
His way of seeing seduction is based on observation. For me, his main argument would be: here are the resources, now do what you want. And so are his books. Always loaded with examples, real seduction stories and all kinds of tools. To inspire you a natural seduction where the main weapon is the sense of humor and whose goal is to have fun as a means to achieve your ends.
A well structured book that summarizes the author's entire proposal in 500 pages. It came out in 2012 and for me that you read to me, this is the book of seduction that I recommend most. It is focused on men, although personally I think that women can also learn a lot from it.
It is a book focused primarily on communication, like all of this author. In it you will find examples to get bored, almost all using the sense of humor as the main weapon. Good theory based on concepts of psychology.
As it hits, it is that there is a central part of the book that particularly bored me like an oyster and that cost me a lot to overcome. If you get to it, don't leave the book. Skip it because the last chapters are the best. You can buy it in Amazon.
SUPERIOR AND VERY RECOMMENDED
150 ways to start a conversation
This is another book that I liked a lot. It follows the same line as the first, but focuses on seeing example after example and with some exercises between in how can we start a conversation with a girl or a boy at night. Although honestly, many of them are valid examples to start conversations for the day.
The theory is similar to that of his previous book, only in this one it comes very and very well summarized. Come on, that's super to the point. Ideal to get going as soon as possible. Also available in Amazon.
Robert Green books
Author of five international bestsellers. There is nothing! American psychologist and writer known for his books on strategy, power and seduction. Well cooked food for the most analytical minds.
It will help you improve your observation skills so that your seduction assumptions are more accurate.
The art of seduction
The art of seduction It is a book that I recommend only to those who have interest in studying seduction from its historical side. The book focuses on analyze seduction from power and manipulation. Vision that for me is not the best. I bet on naturalness, fun and feeling loving rather than exercising power.
However, I like the Lots of information that contributes, from which one can reflect and draw conclusions.
It is not a book for inexperienced beginners. I would gladly refute with the author many of the statements he makes that for me are very open to interpretation. Things that have worked great for me and that he directly tells you never to do, to tell you later something that can contradict them.
As a study of seduction over the years, I insist, focusing on the conquest and its strategies from the side of power, it is very good. But as a guide to start seducing better, I don't think it helps much. You will not find examples of communication, or personal stories of the author, or anything of the kind that serves to take action during the day to day. It's more a book to reflect on the most strategic parts and the attractiveness of personalities in seduction with a very open mind.
Still, the book is of outstanding quality. This author sticks some admirable writing works with a sublime writing style.
ONLY RECOMMENDED AS REFLECTION AND STUDY.
NOT PRACTICAL AND NOT FOR BEGINNERS.
This is one of my favorite self-improvement books. I'm already on his third reading and he has become a regular on my little table year after year.
Seduction is a complex art that requires a lot of courage and perseverance. You must be willing to survive the bullets, and that has a lot to teach 50 cent, who survived 7 shots, one of them in the head.
A book that, in order to seduce you better, will help you overcome rejections, frustration and moments of shame, inspiring your perseverance and courage.
Eckhart Tolle books
If something is clear to me after so many years dedicated to this it is that to seduce more and better the most important is that we learn to enjoy the now. That is, we live the present moment with greater awareness and intensity.
Currently the success of this type of philosophies is resounding for its many benefits for our psyche. In fact, we find this attitude of squeezing the sensations here and now in the majority of referents in seduction, perhaps Giacomo Casanova being its greatest exponent. We need only look at some of his quotes: «My main occupation was always to cultivate the enjoyment of my senses; I never had another more important ».
The power of Now
An essential book on our bookshelf; of those that it is convenient to read little by little and to reflect on each section. In fact, the author leaves a mark between them so that we can meditate on reading.
Thanks to him you can record how your ego works so that it stops sabotaging you in aspects of seduction. Being able, for example, to stop offending you against rejections and keep your calm and good mood to respond more creatively to them. Although its greatest benefit is precisely what we have commented previously; to obtain the keys to live more naturally. What undoubtedly arouses great magnetism in all our actions.
He is one of my favorite authors par excellence. It's amazing how much I've learned from that Indian who died shortly before I was born. I have read yours: Fear, Courage, Emotional Well-being, The passion for the impossible, Intelligence, Creativity, Tantra spirituality and sex, Learn to love, Tantric transformation, Joy, Love, Freedom, Freedom, The Book of sex, and I don't know if I leave some more.
They are books whose texts have been extracted from the conferences and talks he made. In them you always find many anecdotes and even jokes that enliven the reading and give you Big dose of wisdom.
The main drawback of these books is that their citation of religions sometimes ends up boring, and that sometimes antiquity weighs on them. However, I always recommend them to my students and they love them.
One of its strongest points is that They do not stop transmitting you a brave and loving attitude towards a life that must be lived freely. Here and now. Essential arguments to get carried away and that are useful to seduce by breaking all the social conditions.
The first time I read books by this author, it was only enough for me to have an appointment with a girl to see that their arguments had not only changed me, but also caused women to be charmed with that same philosophy that had so much me . In my article on 14 beliefs to be braver You can see part of it.
To seduce you better, I recommend the following three. Although obviously, these books are not manuals on seduction. Simply they will influence you in many aspects that will help you seduce naturally, and will give you things you should know.
OSHO fear is a book Very motivating that helps you understand how your fears and insecurities work. It causes you to break your barriers and go out there to look for experiences. I love the phrase in which he says: «light the torch of life on both sides».
TURN OFF THE LIGHT AND LET'S GO
This is vital in the long term. A book that helps you understand your emotions and those of the other person. It is light for your consciousness. Jealousy, anxiety, frustration, fears ... A very complete book that is very useful to manage your emotions and that of the people you want to seduce so that Be well together and may your magic never collapse. It will also help you Improve Your Self Esteem.
TO READ IT IF OR IF
Learn to love
If you are looking to adopt a good attitude in this of seduction, there is no better book. With this you will learn to accept, appreciate and love women as they are, something that you will then transmit in them. You will seek to live the present to the maximum exponent only by appreciation. And when a woman feels that ... believe me, it's a unique sensation. Even if you have a clear thing, you will fall in love too.
THE BEST LOVING ATTITUDE
Betsy Prioleau's book
A feminine vision that analyzes the art of seduction from the greatest teachers of the past to the most current. It includes reflections on the authors of American methods such as Mystery, who are well placed. Analyze among others George Clooney and other celebrities today.
The great seducers and why women fall in love with them
It is a book that follows the line of The art of seduction. It's based on study different personalities and factors that increase the attractiveness of men.
He quotes many characters and has very good reflections, and differentiating him from the art of seduction, he perceives something more updated and less manipulative and Machiavellian. Very useful if you want to know what really makes women fall in love with a man, as the name implies.
On the other hand, this is not a guide either. You will not have conversation examples or communication models to practice. It is only theoretical study.
David DeAngelo books
One of the authors that I liked the most at the beginning, and that with the passage of time I still like them. Also known as Oscar Garrido in its Spanish commercial version. I have never stopped recommending it.
Was the creator of the arrogant and funny style, presented later in Spain by another author with the name of chulifresco. However, David DeAngelo teaches this style of filtering without forgetting that it is only useful for playing, and that it is essential not to be afraid to show our interest in the girl to move forward.
It also promotes the teaching of creating lasting emotional bonds to connect with girls. Ideal especially for younger people who will feel in their sauce with the style of this author.
This would be the book that I would most recommend to any young boy who begins to want to seduce. Actually, Seductive Conversations is not a book that can be bought. It is an agglomeration of newsletters that this author was sending to a group of subscribers by email every week. Being ideal to help us have more conversation topics.
The good thing is that you can read these newsletters a week and practice them as recommended by the author, or read it at once as if it were a book. It is available only in "pirate" version to download in PDF. You can search on Google, where the one you are looking for finds encuentra
Double your appointments
Another of his books is Double your quotes, one of the first ones that I read and that even today can be recommended for that same group. Guys with little experience seducing you want to solve doubts and start creating a natural seduction style. No step-by-step methods and with a Seduction style that starts with the basis of humor and fun. I have not found it for sale at the moment, you will also find it to download if you search well on google, or listen to it in audiobook here.
Zan Perrion's book
The Alabaster Girl
100% natural. A fucking inspirational book with a unique philosophy about seduction. To fall in love with women and love them as a more powerful form of seduction. Appreciation of beauty in every way. Casanova style.
It only has one catch, and it is quite fat. That is only available in English. But if you know English, you can start.
Bernardo Stamateas books
From this psychologist and sexologist so famous and easy to find in any bookstore I have read several: Toxic people, Toxic emotions, Emotional wounds, Extraordinary Results, I want a change and toxic Passions.
They are easy to read, motivational and very well organized books. The one of toxic Passions did not finish me to square and is the one that I liked least. I think that in this book you can see that he is a religious author and the issue of liberal relations does not end up squaring him.
Of all of them, the best and for an essential to improve social relations is one of my head books:
Toxic emotions is the easiest to read and best structured book on emotional intelligence that I have ever had in my hands. Very different from those of Daniel Goleman whose staff seems to me infumable.
In his chapters the author talks about 15 emotions. This in order to seduce can help you know how to identify those emotions and how to manage them both in yourself and in the other person.
Thanks to him you can emotionally support anyone who is with you, which can take you to connect with others at a very deep level. Especially when you're trying to seduce someone. You can also take a look at me guide to manage emotions, based on this same book.
Mario Luna? ¿Mystery? Neil Strauss?
I do not recommend them ...
This is the stream of authors with books based on step-by-step methods. Personally, I don't like anything. I read years ago Sex code, Sex crack, The method, the 30 day method, The Secret, and many more. I read them all and practiced them for about 3 years. And every year that passed, I felt worse. Until I finally abandoned them completely to promise never to touch them again.
They are authors who classify. Either you are an aven, winner, or whatever you want to call it, or you are a frusco. A loser. A trapped. Something very negative, because when you're doing well, you feel successful, but when you're doing badly, you feel like a fucking ruin. And that destroys self-esteem. Logical, when you promote categorizing and judging others as a way of teaching.
They are methods that promote you to do this and that and that to please. Some authentic nonsense things without any scientific basis. That you follow their structures and their tricks, and that you practice until the calibres that when you do it will bind you to any woman.
They are books that excite you a lot, that make you dream, but that don't deliver what they promise. Now here near. They promote forging an imposted personality and I have seen many people very screwed by this form of growth. You cannot grow alone from the outside. The feeling you have is that you are not changing your personality, but acting with a different one. As an actor. But in the long run your personality is still not working with these books.
I have had many students who have arrived having read this kind of books, and I insist, I followed them for years. In the long run, they are very harmful psychologically. You fill your head with too many birds. You are becoming less natural and more mechanical. A lot of pseudoscientific and sometimes macho information. You end up obsessing with flirting and with what the girls think of you, with how to project courage to be a guy like them they classify: "an alpha male."
They set you in motion and motivate you. Improvements at the beginning, but in the long run, they make you more insecure.
Honestly, I threw myself across a bridge to a river without water just to know nothing about these books. I win. Mine was hard for me to take away all the shit beliefs I adopted from these teachings. Warned you stay!
Of all of them, this title for me is saved as long as it is well combined. His method of seduction is a bit more natural than that of the other books, and it is a good base to start if we finally decide not to pay much attention to the structure and use it without barriers. Especially if your interest is to go out to flirt butt and as soon as possible, more than to love women in a process of seduction deeper and more elaborate.
On the other hand, you will have to try to survive the value part without grabbing insecurities and withstanding the bullshit of Mario Luna. An ultramarketinized author and at times unbearably geek, who puts their names to everything and creates even a vocabulary dictionary. Anyway ... no comments. Available on Amazon.
A great reading book enjoyable and interesting anecdotes. Finding many references to scientific studies and in which we will learn the most common concepts in terms of social skills.
His only downside is that although he accompanies his teachings of some examples, these are still scarce and quite basic as well as rational. What, after all, is not a very inspiring book. An objection that is key for a few, as reflected in the few negative comments of this work on Amazon, does not obscure the one that for me is the main contribution of it: to be an initiation manual with the best keys scientists to support our improvement in the development of our social skills.
VITAL TO BEGIN TO LEARN WITH GOOD FOOT
Read erotic tales and novels can serve as a great source of inspiration to learn transmit sexual tensionl. Some provide very good dialogues loaded with play between their characters that can influence us to better sexualize our conversations. Examples and more examples to feed our most provocative lip!
50 shades of gray
It is the best known and I have read for my taste of the best to learn to sexualize. By the way, it serves to see what we can say in bed and thus improve our sexual relations. Also if you look at how the character of Anastasia thinks you can learn a lot from female psychology. The only downside is that sometimes it becomes somewhat repetitive.
GOOD TO SEXUALIZE
Thirty nights with Olivia
I liked the game between the characters in this novel. Between them they do not stop biting each other to end up having sex anywhere. I found it fun and inspiring.
GOOD TO IMPROVE YOUR FILTER GAME
Álvaro Bonilla books
This is an author I've been reading for many years. When nobody wrote about seduction on the Internet in a well-founded way, he was already there. If you were looking for seduction on Google, practically only he appeared. Other psychologist who knows what he is talking about. I don't know how many articles of his will have been on my blog: The Seduction Strategy.
Recently he released a new book, The Smart Seduction, to whom I have not yet had the pleasure of putting the glove on. However, there was one that I read and liked it a lot:
50 persuasion patterns
This is a great book, also free and short. I gave it away for subscribing to your email. It is very well written and provides very useful information based on NLP but explained in a simple way.
For me it is essential for those who want to improve their emotional communication. Of course, you will have to search on Google in PDF. Nor can it be bought.
MORE THAN RECOMMENDED
Reading and writing poems is an excellent habit to improve our creativity and have conversations that help us to connect emotionally expressing feelings. The latter being absolutely vital to seduce and make someone fall in love.
Hence, both poets and philosophers have been in their own right the kings of seduction, something that is palpable when you study the history of their most illustrious representatives as they make books that we have already recommended.
In my book Awake Beauty, which we have already talked about at the beginning of this article, you can appreciate how incredibly useful poetry reading is for seductive language. That's why I'm going to recommend some books to start based on prose. That is, without rhymes. Since what interests us here is not to impersonate rappers or make a few cloying rhymes, but to enrich our natural language and how we combine it.
On the other hand, reading poetry will also help us to know ourselves more and discover ourselves inside as if it were an introspection exercise. Bringing us this multitude of benefits in our seductive wanderings and in our life in general.
We live in poetry
In We live in Poetry you will find a good part of all my poems. Always loaded with psychological and philosophical aspects that inspire us to be brave, love and seduce with consciousness.
Poems by Luis García Montero
Luis García Montero was the author with whom I began to enter this wonderful art of poetry. The book that I recommend here I will have read about 4 times. As I said before, it is not poetry with rhymes. At least it is not what predominates. What makes it ideal. Its reading is entertaining and quite fluid, with a lot of richness in its lexicon but without abusing an excessively elaborate vocabulary. Something important, then, what we want is to learn to better combine and enrich our language with words that we all understand. It is also available on paper here. I recommend format because it is possible that as I give you several readings.
BASIC TO START
Poems by Fernando Pessoa
Fernando Pessoa is one of the most recognized poets in the history of mankind and I would tell you that he is probably my favorite poet. Without abusing technicalities or excessively complex words, his poems have a truly overwhelming spiritual intensity and depth. I recommend it especially if the spiritual themes attract you. If the Osho books previously recommended and you liked their philosophy, Pessoa will love you. I have not found link in amazon to the complete poetry book that I bought, weight if you have it available at Casa del Libro pricked here.
The new poetry of our time
If you are up to date on Instagram and follow more than one reputed instagramer, you will have noticed that poetry is very fashionable lately. What is partly due to the emergence of new authors who, betting on prose and forgetting about rhymes, have been able to communicate in an emotional and creative way what they feel to connect with the needs of today's public.
Among those authors of all that I have read I recommend:
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Nothing is more seductive than life itself. And in case life is predictable? The answer is no. Be unpredictable, live in a way that you are, and you'll be adapting to nature. Appreciate the beauty of any circumstance and act with a young and playful spirit. Fun is not an option. It is the best variable at our disposal to discover and feel alive.